Post orgasm torture (POT) is a kind of kinks in BDSM, providing intense stimulation to the genitals after reaching orgasm. Most of us end sex after an orgasm, but for some people, torture after it makes them more excited. If you’ve heard the name and are wondering what it refers and involves, keep reading this blog. We’ll explain what POT is, why people enjoy it, how to do and tips. Let’s walk in this kinky world.
What is Post Orgasm Torture
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The Dominant continues intense genital stimulation the second the submissive finishes. Why? Because the body is never more sensitive than it is in the moments following an orgasm. It’s a provocative practice that defies the traditional "end" of sexual activity, transforming the cooling-down phase into a high-stakes game of sensory overload.
You may feel tickling when it starts, but as stimulation heaps up, it can quickly shift from playful to uncomfortable or even painful. Many people say that during this kind of stimulation, they feel strong urge to pull it away or make it stop. What the most interesting is that their body reacts with intense arousal.
This play often needs to tie up the submissive partner so they can’t move or stop what’s happening to them. Being physically restrained means they have no control over how much or how long the stimulation consists. This a hundred percent submission is a big factor of what makes the experience exciting for many people. It puts the sub in a position where they have to fully let go the control right of their bodies, which can be deeply thrilling on a psychological level.
The dominant partner needs to take care of how the sub reacts and make sure the stimulation stays within the limits they both agreed on. This needs skills and experiences because the boundary between intense pleasure and real discomfort can literally be small. Some people also use this play as a kind of punishment, which often combine with verbally humiliation (in a acceptable range).
Though it’s called “torture”, it’s not about actual pain or abuse. The main goal of this practice is to explore pleasure for both the partners where the one on the receiving end consents to being “tortured” after climax. Anyone can be either dominant or submissive regardless of their gender or sexual orientation.
How To Do Post Orgasm Torture
There is no single way to enjoy post orgasm torture. Every parts of your body can be continually stimulated in multiple ways to feel pleasure.
Post orgasm torture has many different types of touch and intensity. The most basic one is using your hands to stimulate the sub’s genitals. You can rub, pinch, stroke, or gently massage the sensitive genital area after orgasm. Some also like to increase the impact by pinching, squeezing, flicking, or light spanking, to mix up the sensations.
Some like using sex toys and certain devices like vibrators or wands or sleeves because they can deliver strong, steady stimulation that would be hard to provide by hands. Other tools like silk stockings and gauze can even provide a damage pleasure.
But it’s not limited to genital stimulation either. Combination techniques which involve touching other sensitive areas like necks and thighs can feel good too. Touching or teasing right areas can be great way ease into the post orgasm torture. For people have vulva, post orgasm torture can involve having multiple orgasm in a row, instead of just being stimulated after one orgasm.
Dos and Don’ts of Post Orgasm Torture
Dos
Ready to dive into the world of post-orgasm intensity? While things can get incredibly steamy, safety should always be your top priority. Before you start, sit down with your partner and get on the same page. Talk about what’s "on" and "off" the table, discuss your limits, and—most importantly—pick a safe word.
Keep it slick! After the big finish, your body can become much drier and hyper-sensitive. To avoid any unwanted friction or "burn," don't be shy with the lube. Reapplying lubrication helps keep the sensations smooth and prevents any post-play discomfort. Your body will thank you!
Regular check and aftercare matter! Consent isn't a one-time "yes"—it is an ongoing conversation. Always check in with your partner throughout the scene; remember, anyone can change their mind at any moment, and that’s perfectly okay. Practicing ongoing consent ensures that the experience remains safe and enjoyable for everyone involved.
Once the scene ends, the submissive partner may feel physically or emotionally drained. This is where aftercare comes in. Small gestures make a world of difference: draw a warm bath or gently clean each other with a warm towel. Complement the physical cleanup with emotional nurturing—cuddles, soft kisses, and comforting words. These simple acts are the most effective way to help your partner feel supported and feel truly safe and sound.
Don'ts
Do not go against the will of the submissive partner. The most important rule in any power-exchange dynamic is that the submissive partner’s agency must never be compromised. Kinky play is not about "doing something to" someone; it is about "exploring something with" someone. Every action must be rooted in mutual respect. Never override your partner’s will or push them into something they haven't agreed to.
Do not ignore the pain and other signal. While kinky play often involves pushing boundaries or exploring "good pain," there is a sharp line between a thrilling sensation and actual distress. Pain should never be ignored when it crosses the line from "intense" to "unbearable."
Don't rush. Great kinky play is a marathon, not a sprint. One of the most common mistakes is trying to do too much, too fast. Building intensity gradually is key to a sustainable and rewarding experience. Begin with lighter sensations and lower stakes. This allows the body to adjust and the mind to settle into the scene.
Wrap it Up
Ultimately, kinky play is about more than just physical sensation; for many, it is a profound way to release the weight of daily stress. By surrendering control within a safe, pre-negotiated container, you create space for both intense exploration and deep emotional relaxation.
Remember: there is no 'universal' way to experience pleasure. What matters is not whether your desires are common, but whether they are consensual, respectful, and safe. Own your journey, trust your partner, and embrace the unique path that leads to your fulfillment.
